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undead vampiric blue spacegoat. in plate. ([personal profile] vangirl) wrote2011-04-06 06:30 pm
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I am Van's daily rant on why heteronormativity is stinky.

RE: MY FAVORITE CHARACTER CAN’T BE GAY/PUT A WARNING ON YOUR M/M OR F/F FICTION

If you’re playing a video game full of space dragons, giant monsters, attractive aliens and space travel but what you call out to be unrealistic is that some of the characters in the game either are canonly or interpreted to be anything but heterosexual, that’s a homophobic and heteronormative mindset. If you legitimately believe heterophobia is a problem, that’s a heternormative mindset. Let me break something down for you and blow your mind—most canons (this isn’t exclusive to games) are heteronormative. If you’re upset because the only storyline for a canon gay character isn’t struggling with oppression/internalizing homophobia or that it isn’t present at all when there are space dragons and consider that to be the most unrealistic part of the game, that’s a homophobic and heteronormative mindset. If we’re talking fic set in the ’50s, or something set in modern day law enforcement which is notoriously homophobic for example, then yeah, maybe that should be a part of the story. But when we’re talking alternate fantasy universes with space dragons and as a straight person you feel the need to inform everyone how the gay/bi characters aren’t realistic because they aren’t nearly being executed for being homosexual, that’s heteronormative and homophobic behavior!

Preferring to write/read fiction that is not heteronormative is not heterophobic. It’s actually impossible for “heterophobia” to be a serious problem—people aren’t murdered and/or bullied to the point they harm themselves or commit suicide just for being heterosexual. Heterosexual people don’t have their worth dismissed or aren’t believed to be irrational or inherently bad just for being heterosexual. If you consider yourself to be open-minded and/or not homophobic but your favorite character can’t be gay because gay is not as good as straight is, that’s homophobic. Preferring to read/write heterosexual, heterormative romance because you are heterosexual/bisexual isn’t homophobic (as long as you aren’t repulsed by mere mentions of The Gays, or ignoring canon bisexuality because Bi Is Bad). But when you start acting like you have some kind of power over what other people read and write, or that they should put a warning on it because it’s offensive material to you since your favorite character cannot possibly be gay because they’re your favorite, that is heternormative and homophobic behavior. Check yourself.


I think I already said I am sick to death with fandom's tendency to assume straight until proven otherwise, as though homo/bi/a/pansexuality was something that has to be 'proven' to justify writing fanfic involving it and heterosexuality is a given (and yet it's still okay to write all sorts of canon-breaking AUs 'just because I felt like it'?) but. I AM SICK TO DEATH WITH IT.

I am sick to death of people who feel that their right to decide what is or isn't 'canon-abiding' (aka "the RIGHT way to write a character") supersedes my right to actually have stories that I enjoy. I am sick of people that feel the need to explain how they feel so ~alienated~ from fandom because so much of it is slash-focused, when the canon itself (and the rest of mainstream media) is goes with the same heteronormative 'straight until proven otherwise' idea they have.

And I am sick of people who believe that because a tiny internet niche doesn't cater to them and them alone then that is somehow proof that they're the targets of actual hatred. If you confuse 'not being pampered and treated as some upstanding standard of normality' with 'hatred' then well, privilege has spoiled you.

You can still believe that writing fandom characters as anything other than straight without 'proof' is wrong wrong wrong, even when there isn't even any 'canon proof' of them being straight at all. I have no control over how you think. I still have the right to think your brain is loaded with heteronormativity and that it makes you smell bad.

No seriously, have you gotten a whiff of your brain lately? Goddamn your thought process reeks.
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[personal profile] starfleet 2011-04-07 12:45 am (UTC)(link)
The place I get this crap the most from is shounen manga. I like shounen manga a bunch. But you know what else I like? GAY.

There's a lot of ridiculous heteronormativity in shounen manga, and that's fine, whatevs. But there are also tons of stories where there is not a canon romance, even if Shounen Hero has an obvious crush on a girl, or a girl has an obvious crush on him (which he is completely oblivious to).

My decision to write Shounen Hero having sex with his best male friend (or even rival, in some cases) instead of whatever female character comes along is NOT actually terrible of me. There's just as much UST between male character pairs as between hetero pairs! (This also goes for writing that female character with her female bff.)

The desire to relate to characters having my same sexuality isn't horrible or offensive. It's a normal human desire! I'm sure that people of color enjoy having characters that they can relate to that are their races; sexual identity is not different in this regard. Gay kids want to relate to gay fictional characters the same way non-white kids want to relate to non-white heroes. IT'S NOT OFFENSIVE, IT'S QUITE NORMAL.

Fandom vexes me sometimes. :|
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[personal profile] takemyrevolution 2011-04-07 03:39 am (UTC)(link)
THIS.

[personal profile] bigbrasskey 2011-04-07 04:39 am (UTC)(link)
&hearts
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[personal profile] dingsi 2011-04-07 03:49 pm (UTC)(link)
There aren't enough pens for how much I want to co-sign this in agreement.
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[personal profile] peoriapeoriawhereart 2011-04-17 01:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes.

I remember, prior to the boxed set (Real Ghostbusters), being demanded to cite 'evidence' that Egon and Peter *could* have an attraction they hadn't acted on or self-acknowledged.

Canons have different weaves that change the texture of the sorts of stories that can be told 'between the lines'. And even that is subject to question. It's startling to find perception of history overwritten by intervening 'truths' (thus the need to see Men of Color in the American West, or to realize that there were women in Classical Music as but two examples.)

And yes, that's the same sort of argument that happens when men find a space that's women-only, when allies find they need to stick to 'support roles', and so on. A specious argument.

Rock on!
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[personal profile] peoriapeoriawhereart 2011-04-27 09:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Driving the carny wagon and Peter is best at the ballyho.
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[personal profile] karel 2011-05-21 05:56 pm (UTC)(link)
This is an old post, but I like it a lot. I probably have a tendency to just write characters as bisexual the most, because I stick them with whoever I can form the best plot around. I hate this idea of "straight until proven otherwise" so much. Especially in fantasy series where there seems to be a looser societal structure. And if the character has dated someone (or someones) of the opposite gender, they could still be bi or other sexualities. You don't lose your bi/pansexuality just because you, as a dude, have dated mostly ladies. Your type may not have popped up yet, been interested in you, and been in a position where they were a viable date.

Which could easily start me on how much I hate the "slutty bisexual" stereotype, BUT I'LL STOP, because I'd be preaching to the choir.